“Then Yosef said to his brothers, "Please come closer to me,"...And he said, "I am your brother Yosef, whom you sold into Egypt. But now do not be sad, and let it not trouble you that you sold me here, for it was to be a provider that God sent me ahead of you.” 45-4,5
When Yosef saw his brothers shrink away from him in shame, he comforted them by saying that their selling him was part of God’s plan: “It was to be a provider that God sent me ahead of you. ” . That we would descend to Egypt was non negotiable: it was part of God’s plan that He earlier conveyed to Abraham. We could have gone to Egypt in iron chains, but instead He sent me here to prepare the way for an honorable descent… – Medrash Tanchumah VaYigash 5
In a remarkable display of sensitivity and emunah, Yosef refused to gloat over his brothers’ obvious pain, and focused instead on comforting them. He demonstrated his unique suitability to be a Jewish leader when he pointed out to them that in his mind their actions toward him were merely the execution of God’s plan to exile the Jews to Egypt. Moreover, it was the ideal means of doing so, since the alternative would have been difficult and demeaning.